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Calories, 2500
So, I had an experience yesterday that was a great learning experience and something we apparently never stop going through. They say that God keeps testing you until you learn your lessons, and I think I have finally learned a lot about personal relationships. I vaguely remember in Junior High where the band of "popular" girls would focus in on a target and torment her by starting rumors, taking behind her back (within earshot, or to a person who is certain to relay the information). I am 40 and have learned that some girls never outgrow that. When I learned that someone who I am not accountable to was complaining about how I time block my day because they didn't want to deal with the mildly unpleasant task of asking a person to leave a voicemail, I exploded with anger. I couldn't help it. The reason is because of the conduit that was used, someone I thought was a friend. And, that person not only told me what was said about me, but went on to defend that person's point of view. I was hurt and livid. I did what I always do when I deal with something difficult, I study it. How to manage anger, phrases for dealing with difficult people, etc. None of this was helpful, it only fueled my anger. That is until I read something that put everything in perspective. The biggest question I had was, why? Why do women feel the need to tear other women down? Because they feel inferior and they are competing with you. Sigh. Now I get it. While I can't empathize and refuse to sympathize, I accept that it exists. It exists in men too by the way.
So, I implore you all to consider your friends. Do they ever speak ill of others for very superficial reasons? Then, they speak ill of you. There is a quote that says something like, "I'm not upset that that person was talking about me, but that you are a person they thought they could talk about me to."
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